Talk About It! MARRIAGE...Is LOVE enough to sustain it?

 There are lots of issues to talk about these days. The world is evolving everyday: people, technology, culture and the environment. Ten years ago: gay marriage was a taboo and totally unheard of, social networks (facebook, twitter, instagram, etc) were inactive, it was culturally unacceptable to wed people without them being physically present. Now a lot has CHANGED.

TALK ABOUT  IT is a segment of my blog that raises sensitive issues such as dating, marriage, divorce, real life situations and societal ills. Topics/situations would be raised everyday on the blog, so it’s a ground for exchange of opinions. The bottom-line is to make suggestions that would help others live a better and happy life. WE ALL DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.

So Let’s talk about, MARRIAGE...Is LOVE enough to sustain it?

The rate at which news about divorce flies these days is so scary; it seems lipstick lasts better than some marriages. The divorce statistics is not encouraging.

 I don’t think a Saturday goes by in Nigeria without a wedding ceremony. So much is put in place for these events to happen especially finance and a high level of stress. Some couples end up not even enjoying their wedding. So much tension, pressure takes over and some end up becoming ‘groomzillas’ & ‘bridezilla'. 

After going through putting up a big event, inviting guests from far and wide, sharing ‘ASO-EBI’; under the sun or in the rain, the next thing is ‘DIVORCE’. 

Funny but sadly true

What happened to the ‘happily ever after’, ‘till death do us part'; then comes the reason, ‘Irreconcilable Differences’....some big grammatical phrase that wraps up a world of aggrievances.

Once upon a time, it was: ‘ I love you Boo’; ‘You are my life’; ‘I can’t do without you’; ‘if it’s not  you, it’s no one else’. 

suddenly it transforms into hurtful words: ‘I detest your presence’; ‘I regret the day I met you’; ‘You are the worst thing that ever happened to me’.

I look at my parents and I wonder how they have coped with each other for over 35 years; I feel encouraged. Some couples have gone over 40, 50 years together and some are still counting. So it seems possible, it’s encouraging. But I realise again that things are not the same as they were in their time, it's a whole new world when it comes to this present generation.

So back to the big question: Is LOVE enough to sustain MARRIAGE till death do you part?